Are you alive?
Paul reminds us in Ephesians 2:1 “As for you, you were dead in your sins in which you used to live.” Sin is the word that is best defined as self. We are born filled with self-interest and self-focus.
That does not mean we do not on occasion do good things for others. After all Tony Soprano did love his family, but his love for his family was not enough to save him from himself. Why? Because without Christ we are all the walking dead, physically alive and spiritually dead.
Either you are dead in your sins or alive in Christ!